Often such moments happen during my randomly busy days and I’m unable to remember the connections made or the moment passes and the next time i’m at the computer my mind draws a blank. today per chance the video froze and so i decided to blog this right away.
I also found it amazing that for a boy who normally does not read novel-length and novel-typesize books, Raghu read the Horrible Histories book on Al Capone cover to cover. It amazes me the information that he squirrels away. I may never truly know what my child has learnt, where he learnt it, why he learnt it, how he learnt it and when he learnt it. But I know that he will learn what he needs, when he needs it, etc. You get my drift.
Raghu’s love for guns, the mafia, gangs, is leading to an interest in history, geography and many other ‘subjects’. I love the mix of information and flow of connections in our house. Raghu said he loved the story of Al Capone. He loves watching The Godfather series with Ravi. And since Ravi has a clear hold over facts and figures and can talk instantly about directors, movies, dialog, films, historic facts etc, the 2 really enjoy their discussions on Scarface and the like 🙂
As Raghu plays around the house he might hear us conversing about a topic and he jumps right in with his connections, information or sometimes a joke he heard about the topic. This is something Ravi and I now welcome. Sometimes it feels like our conversations are interrupted too often and we might tell Raghu to hold his thought while we complete our train of thought… but mostly its a joy to have him and these days even Zoya jumping right in and giving us their world view. They can influence the actions in this house and have impact. I think for a child this is real-time learning.
Zoya has been parading us with dialogs from a diverse variety of movies. She will say something from 3 idiots “jahanpana tussi great ho” when I bring her something she likes 🙂 Or she might put her lyrics to the tune of “Return to Sender” (Elvis). Try singing this to the tune: “Nana (Ravi) is verrrry grumpy, and not being nice, so I said to the postman, his letter comes back, Return to Sender, address unknown”. Its so funny! And the song has the desired effect and Nana is less grumpy right away. She makes up songs like this in tune to many Hindi and English songs. Sometimes nonsensical, sometimes circumstances will be reflected in the lyrics 🙂 We all enjoy her way of communicating.. thru her songs. She tells us how she feels, what she wants and even asks questions. Raghu has been helping her with holding the tune and finding the right rhyming word.
My children and I are learning way more than just facts and figures. We learn about emotions, personalities, the world and why it is the way it is (a topic that is rehashed every few weeks as my ability to talk about it improves and my children ask more complex things), our selves, our family and its dynamics, what is money and why some people want more of it and some don’t. Etcetera. And if I’m sad and they notice it, we talk about it. Sharing my emotions, sharing how I dealt with an emotional moment, is important to me. Often Raghu will know exactly what I need or want and will make wise suggestions… go for a walk Amma or he might ask if I want a glass of water.
Raghu advised me recently, “You know Amma, when you get angry and you want to not be angry any more, then you just need to forget what happened.” Ravi and I rarely, these days, get truly annoyed with each other.. its usually circumstantial stuff, rocky centers due to a cold or some such…. and yet… this piece of advice from my 9 year old was in alignment with what I have been learning from reading Byron Katie. I was indeed grumpy with Ravi that day and my grumpiness vanished. And I continue to learn.